Why playing the field is good for you

Some people, when they are new to online dating, will only speak to and meet with one person at a time. While this is wonderfully honourable, it’s not the best way to find someone who’s really right for you. The beauty of online dating is that you can chat to several potential new partners at any one time and try to build up a good rapport with any or all of them.

Dating more than one person

Dating more than one person gives you the chance to find the perfect partner. If you date just one person you might stay with them simply because they are nice. If you date more than one person then this gives you the chance to find someone you really connect with.

You can be sure that the people you speak to online are also keeping their options open by speaking to other people too. Dating more than one person at a time isn’t cheating but if your relationship with one person starts to become a bit more serious this is when you should stop seeing other people.

If you feel guilty about what you’re doing then you need to look at the people you’re seeing and either be honest with them that you’re seeing other people or cut down on the people you spend time with.

Trying to find the one

Seeing more than one person can help you to identify the person that is really right for you. If you date just one person, you might get on with them and have fun together but there may not be that spark. If you go on a few dates with different people, you’ll soon realise what that spark feels like.

Don’t settle

Being comfortable and content with someone isn’t always enough. Playing the field stops you from settling with the first person you get along with.

Socialising is good

Even if you’re not really hitting it off with the people you’re going on dates with, it’s good to get out and socialise. You might not find your dream partner but you’ll no doubt have fun and will get to meet some interesting people.

Don’t stick to your type

If you always go for someone you consider your type then you might be missing out on a huge chunk of the population. Try not to be too picky, especially when looking on a dating site for a potential match.

Don’t pin everything on that profile picture. Speak to lots of different people and any that you really feel a connection with online, you should consider going on a date with. There’s no point in discounting someone over their blonde hair just because you prefer brunettes. Give someone a chance — especially if your online conversations have been amazing — regardless of how they look.

Honestly is the best policy

If you’re dating more than one person at a time, you don’t necessarily have to make this public knowledge. However, if you’re asked about it, you need to tell the truth. Don’t sneak around but don’t brag. There’s nothing more unattractive than someone who is overtly proud of playing the field.

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