It happens in almost every relationship, and yet we’re always surprised when it does. The honeymoon period is a well-documented and widely experienced phenomenon, in which we might feel like we can’t get enough of our partner at the start, and be pretty insatiable in all respects when it comes to spending time with them. However, as we get to know them, it feels like that fire can fade. While it is replaced with a deeper and more thorough appreciation of them in a healthy relationship, there’s no denying that we might miss the sparks of the honeymoon period and especially how they can set things alight in the bedroom.
You don’t need to be in the honeymoon period to have an exhilarating time together. Here are a few ways to add a little spice to any relationship.
Communicate your desires
A lot of couples don’t really talk about sex all that often. Instead, things get started by those little non-verbal cues and gestures or get shut down just as subtly or suddenly. Learning to talk about sex with your partner, about your desires, and how you can both fulfil them, can add a whole new dynamic to your time with one another. Not only can it help you much better discover one another, but it’s a new kind of stimulation that can also make things much more exciting. It can be a little embarrassing at first, but that might even add to the fun.
Feel good to feel great
Great intimacy isn’t just about feeling or being sexy. There is a whole chemical cocktail that works overtime in the brain when you’re getting to know a new partner romantically. It’s not as potent when you have been in that relationship for a long time, but you can start stirring it yourself. Dopamine and endorphins can both get you feeling great, and there are a range of ways to induce these, but working out together is one excellent way to induce them a little more often.
Wear something a little special
If you want to ignite your partner’s passions, then don’t underestimate just how much of an impact a change in your look can have. Investing in a little treat, like some lingerie such as a bodystocking can have a profound effect. Seeing you in a way that they haven’t seen you before can bring back that rush of excitement and unfamiliarity that can make the initial honeymoon period so addictive in the first place. On your side, feeling desired, empowered, and sexy can encourage you to feel all sorts of great about yourself during the act.
Don’t rush through intimacy
A lot of couples get to the stage that they prioritize intimacy over sex. Some things can become a “matter of course,” but spending time together should not be one of them. Take the opportunity to hug or kiss a little more throughout the day and, when you’re alone together, practise spending longer on foreplay, building up anticipation and heat before you get to the moment that you are bonded together. Take the time to incorporate teasing, giving, and receiving. Great foreplay can lead to phenomenal sex but sometimes you will find that you can simply spend an evening indulging and engaging in it alone.
Lift yourself (and each other) up
Confidence and sex have a lot to do with one another. If you feel great about yourself and your body, you might feel sexier and more active in seeking it out and encouraging it from your partner. As such, making sure that you feel desirable, and know the ways in which you are sexy can help. You can help boost your partner’s self-esteem and mood, as well, such as by writing little love notes about the things you find attractive about them or the things that you can do together.
Don’t try to brute force your way past any issues
Now, the tips above can help you have a fantastic and sexy time in the bedroom, but there can be some serious conversations to be had as well. One or both of you might not be feeling very desirable or might be experiencing low libido for a range of issues. Encouraging conversation about both mental health and physical health, and how they can affect your sex life, can help you both get a start in looking at solutions.
You don’t to go particularly out there or push any boundaries to make things a little more exciting in the bedroom. The tips above can help just as much.
Great tips! A difficult subject but you handled it wonderfully
Informative!